The Unstoppable Force of a Motivated Women
Overall, becoming an entrepreneur is a very daunting task for most individuals, and rightly so. While the individual’s success might be seen so easily, what doesn’t get seen is the sacrifice, long hours, the having to make tough choices, the commitment to learning new skills, the self – doubt, the failures nor the amount of coffee it takes to get to that point of success.
Women in business very often have the added pressure to find the balance between perusing their passion with their role of being a wife, mom, friend, daughter, etc. This daily struggle to be the best version of themselves is, however, what makes a woman in business so unstoppable.
Paving the way
Growing up I was always fascinated with powerful, successful women and many hours where spent reading bibliographies and news articles on women such as Margaret Thatcher, Oprah Winfrey, and Esteé Lauder while daydreaming of how I wanted to have my version of their success one day. For years women have been showing the world how resilient and powerful they can really be, paving the way for us to be able to freely and confidently step out of our comfort zones and conquer any sector or industry we choose to enter. Aside from these powerful women, I have mentioned, my biggest inspiration and example was my mom. A woman who left her birth country behind to support her husband in trying to build a better life for themselves and their children, she used to work 12 -14 hour days in the business with my dad and would get home and be a full hands-on wife and mom. Today more than ever, I am convinced she is secretly superhuman because I don’t know how she did it all on her own but aside from that I realised it was an ‘ordinary’ woman who paved the way to my entrepreneurial journey.
Ordinary, the new Extraordinary
This past women’s day, I was fortunate enough to spend the morning with a diverse group of female entrepreneurs. We started the morning with as ordinary women with general chatter and introductions, we left as powerful, motivated and united women in business. After listening to each women’s story, learning about their challenges, their different skills, their motivations, their failures, the heartaches they have had to endure, their successes, I have never been prouder to be a woman! FH Sin put it beautifully saying “her soul is fierce, her heart is brave, her mind is strong”. These women, like various other I have the privilege to work with daily all seem to have the following seemingly ordinary characteristics that make them extraordinary:
- They are deeply passionate
- They do not expect perfection, they assess, learn, do their best and adjust the plan if needed
- They are not afraid to take risks
- They believe they are a success
- They practice gratitude
If it was easy, everyone would do it
Some people define an Entrepreneur as a crazy person who risks their own money for freedom, rather than exchanging their freedom for money – and I have to agree that takes a special individual to take the risk to go out and build their own legacy and their own version of success. To all my fellow women in business I would like to say thank you for being such an inspiration to those around you, keep showing up when most people would quit, believe you can – because you will and no matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show and never give up!
Celebrating women’s month like the BO$$ you are
A life coach commented something that was really interesting to me the other day. It was about living your dream life. You know, the one where you drive the Porché, have the 8 bedroom house and earn 6 figures. Somehow this month’s topic reminded me of that. Celebrating women’s month by being the BOSS you are meant to be.
We often get side-tracked by our work. As women, we are working bees and always make sure everything runs smoothly be it at work or at home we never just step back and make it about us for a change. If you’re like me you don’t invest in yourself too often, well lady it’s time to step up.
Now look, I’m not saying go crazy and spend your savings on a new car but there are loads of things you can do to spoil yourself into the life that you dream for yourself. How? Well…
First step is to plan it out. Write down everything in detail. How do you look, what do you wear, how do you walk, what do you drive, where do you live, how is your relationships, how does your day go. The more detail the better. This is your ideal life, the best you that you can possibly be.
Once you have that down, start by taking each thing and thinking about what you can do today to get a little bit closer to that? This is where the fun comes in! A couple of ideas could be, get your nails done or a facial, take that car you have in mind for a test drive, put your yellow high heels on and go have lunch at that spiffy restaurant you’ve been pining for. The list is endless and dependent on what you’ve got on your list. Some things take a bit more effort, like improving on your relationships but if you take it step by step you’ll see an improvement in no time.
This list isn’t just something to aspire to but it becomes goals that you can live towards each day. Make a point of it to do at least one thing each month that draws you closer. This keeps you in the game.
So even though this is women’s month, see it as a chance to become the warrior you are inside and start living like the CEO or President of your life. Women are a force to be reckoned with but we are too busy backstage making sure everyone else is on their game and are living their best lives that we seldom have time or energy to work on our own.
This month I challenge you to make your list and start a bit of self-care in the right direction. Working on your goals a little bit every day gets you much closer than writing them down in January and never looking at them again.
Take yourself out for a change and celebrate the awesomeness that is you, I dare you!
7 Reasons why it is good for a women to be her own boss
Internationally and in South Africa, every year we celebrate the amazing achievements of women and the progress we have made towards gender equality. Women everywhere are recognised for their leadership, particularly in business. Of course not everyone can be “Woman of the Year” but every women who is her own boss is a leader.
This year, the United Nations encourages women to innovate, think equal and build smart. Here is what the UN Secretary-General, António Guterres, aims for:
“Let’s make sure women and girls can shape the policies, services and infrastructure that impact all our lives. And let’s support women and girls who are breaking down barriers to create a better world for everyone (https://www.un.org/en/events/womensday/)”.
With encouragement like this, women are finding the freedom to be their own boss all over the world and embrace these ideals. They empower themselves and are am example to other women and girls and free themselves to achieve.
But it’s easy to overlook this freedom if you only focus on the bottom line when running a business.
Free to choose!
Whether you are single, a wife or a mother, you can choose how your time is spent for a balanced life. It doesn’t matter when, how long, or where you are working as long as you deliver. You are in control You choose how to meet the challenges of running your business because the responsibility begins and ends with you.
Free to grow as a person!
As your own boss, you go from strength to strength by not relying on the approval of a boss. You measure your success by what you achieve. When things go right no one else takes the credit, you are the one who becomes more and more confident by being the boss.
Free to learn!
You learn every day that you manage your life, whether you realise this or not. You can devote that little bit of extra time to learn how to improve whatever aspect of your life and work, whether it is related to running a business or not.
Free to earn!
There is no ceiling on your earning capacity nor that of your employees. Unlike being employed at a set salary, when you have your own business there is no waiting and hoping for a tiny increase in your salary.
Free to create!
You don’t have to be the creative type to find better ways to do business, or how to make everyone’s work fun and rewarding. As an entrepreneur you must and will innovate to solve problems, use new technologies, improve your service and create new products.
Free to give back!
When you hire staff you help fulfill their own hopes and dreams. This is a perfect opportunity to create an amazing job and work environment for yourself and for others. You are giving back to others as well as growing the economy.
Free to celebrate!
This year Women’s Day in South Africa focuses on focuses on celebrating the strength, beauty and love of all South African women. As your own boss you are free to love what you do, and do the work you love.
You can be very, very proud of yourself and everything you do and celebrate your strength and entrepreneurial spirit, not only on women’s day but every day of the year.
Get Your Goals Done With this Mid-Year Check-In
Goal setting is essential to living a life with purpose and meaning. Goals give our lives direction and focus, and help us stay motivated.
Nearly everything in life revolves around goals, they encompass all of our plans for the future, all of our hopes, dreams and visions for what we want in life. And yet we often fail to reach our goals. That’s because we’re all human and can be easily distracted.
Avoid the Mid-Year Slump
Maybe you’ve been powering through and are making great progress toward your goals. If so, that’s great! Take a look back and enjoy seeing what you’ve accomplished. At this point, the danger is letting complacency set in. You want to keep moving forward and avoid that mid-year slump that can derail your progress for the remaining half of the year.
Check In to Reach Your Goals
Checking in on your goals might show you progress you didn’t know you’d made, that’s always encouraging. Checking in can also give you some insight about how you need to change your goals.
How to Check In
Go back to your goal list (if you’re pursuing more than one) or your goal description.
Ask yourself, where did I start? Where am I now? The point is not to berate yourself, it’s to accurately assess your rate of progress, the obstacles encountered, and to determine how you can keep going and even improve for the rest of the year.
Set some markers for progress, one every two to four weeks, and check in when you reach each marker. A little at a time adds up to a lot, and you’ve got five more months in this year to get things done.
Evaluating your progress is like drawing up a roadmap for the year. You can’t get back on track if you don’t even know where the track is or if it leads to where you want to go.
Have you ever set a goal at the beginning of the year only to realize you don’t care about it just a few months later?
That’s why evaluating your progress isn’t just about making sure you’re working hard on your goals, it’s about making sure your goals still work for you.
Ask yourself why you want to accomplish each goal. If you don’t have a good enough answer, it’s time to say goodbye.
- What are my achievements?
- What are my struggles?
- What is the next step?
Using these three questions to work your way through your goals for the rest of the year, really gives you the opportunity for a reset. I urge you to physically write the answers to these questions down, and not just think of the answers, you will find if you can be honest with yourself and write out your struggles, you will be more likely to pinpoint the steps needed to achieve your goals.
It is important to not get defeated at this point. If there is a goal on your list that you haven’t even began to work towards, don’t put yourself down for it. Break the goal down into smaller, tangible goals. Try to give yourself the grace you would give to someone else.
It is never too late to start again. Trust where you are in your journey and be honest with yourself and you will find a way to reach your goals.
How is that 2019 goal list looking? A 6 month check in with…myself!
What?? It is July already??
Well that was unexpected – seems like just the other day I was getting my kid ready for his first day at big school and now we are 6 and bit months down, 2 terms into school and a talking, almost 2 year old, into 2019!
So I thought it fitting to do somewhat of a check in with myself – have you done something similar?
Now I will admit – this year really has challenged me a fair deal, but in a good way (if there is such a thing) because challenges mean we are learning or have been given an opportunity to learn, take a step back and reassess situations that may not be all that great for us and have the chance to make a change.
One of my big challenges was balance this year – and funny how it was also something that was on my list, my new year’s resolutions if you want. Balance in life and work. Finding more time for me (which still eludes me it would seem) and because of this, I found myself on the brink of mental meltdown.
In this blog, I will share how I plan to get back on the proverbial horse and put me first in order to be there for everyone else who needs me. Because if you do not take care of you, no one will!
How am I going to reach my goal in the last half of 2019?
Now, I had a few things on my list of resolutions, goals that I wanted to achieve for 2019 but one of my main ones was finding balance in my life, family and work. But the main thing I knew I needed to do was put me first!
If I am not at my peak when it comes to health and mental wellbeing, how can I possibly be there for my family? How can I possibly be there for my clients? How can I possibly be there for me?
After my personal hurdle knocking me on my behind for a few days – I decided to sit, take a breather, have a mini digital detox and reassess the situation and how I was going to overcome the madness.
This is what I came up with (these were on my original list):
- ME FIRST – I have to take time for me. Whether that be a morning out on my own for breakfast or meeting with a friend or my mom or sister for a coffee then so be it. Perhaps even just having a bit of time to pamper at home is what I will do – set aside an hour or so to do nails, have a spa bath or get a foot massage.
- BE MORE PRESENT – Being a working mom, working at home and still trying to be present with the boys can be challenging, especially when deadlines and tasks are at the forefront of my mind most of the time. But I have noticed remarkable changes in my kid’s behaviour when I spend, even 10 minutes, of time just with them, fully present and participating in whatever silly little game they want to play. So I know that I have sort of checked this one off the list – but will continue to have this on all lists going forward.
- EAT BETTER – Seems like something that should be easily done – but this is possibly the one goal that has eluded me the most. Convenience is king and most times that results in take-outs and snacks and so on. But after re-looking my list and realizing that I definitely need to make the change – I am prepping meals and making sure that not only my kids are well fed and eating their veggies but that mommy is too … after all, we lead by example.
- GET QUALITY SLEEP – I have also had serious trouble with getting more than 4 hours of sleep in every night and something that I am trying to get around.
And this brings me to – how this relates to me as a VA….
All these things make for a better me, and a better more balanced home life and therefore a more quiet and focused brain when it comes to working and providing clients with the best and more.
I would say that this would be the same for anyone whether working from home or at an office, freeing your mind of the clutter and madness and having balance can definitely help you achieve your goals. It can make a serious difference when it comes to completing tasks and learning new things and taking on more challenges with a positive outlook.
I have complete faith that all of the above – as well as a few extra things – will be achieved before midnight chimes at the end of 2019!
How far have you come this year? Did you reach any or all of your goals?
Happy half year and let’s end it with a bang!