How to Become and STAY Motivated!
Don’t just talk, Just ACT!
Don’t just say, Just SHOW!
Don’t just promise, Just PROVE!
What is the meaning of Motivational?
Relating to the reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way. Promoting the desire or willingness to do or achieve something.
Ways to get and STAY motivated~
- Reviewing one’s goals first thing in the morning and pick one
- Get MOVING!
- Cut your to-do list in half
- Celebrate the little wins, no matter how small
- Getting around the right people
Reviewing one’s goals first thing in the morning and pick ONE
Make a decision, a decision to go ALL the way!
Life gets in the way and distracts us from accomplishing our goals or tasks.
Make a decision to review your goals or dreams list on a daily basis. First thing in the morning is best, with a clear fresh mind. This sets the tone for how your day and your life will progress.
Select just ONE of your goals, start putting together a plan that will help you achieve and focus on your goals and dreams.
I came across an acronym not so long ago, S.M.A.R.T!
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Attainable
R = Realistic
T = Time-sensitive
Procrastination is the key element to “stealing” one’s goals and dreams. STOP! Procrastinating.
To combat procrastination so that you can stay productive and keep moving forward, MAKE yourself happy.
Ways to make yourself happy:
- Show gratitude
- Surround yourself with positive people
- Celebrate the small things in life
- Be charitable
- Do things that you enjoy
- Put on some loud music and dance around the house
I don’t know what YOUR happy button is, FIND it, it will make the world of difference in your life.
Cut your to-do list in half
Having a long to-do list can be really taxing and energy draining. Cut your to-do list in half. Focus on completing the most important tasks first.
Personally, I tackle one, major to do first thing in the morning, this literally boosts my energy ten-fold and gives me the drive to complete many more tasks than I normally wood. The satisfaction of ticking a major task off your list is astounding.
Celebrate the little wins, no matter how small
Small wins may seem like just that – small. Celebrating these wins can help create positive habits. Think of it this way, small wins are progress points on your way to your goal.
How to celebrate the wins: –
- Notice them
- Get excited
- Communicate your small wins
- Reward yourself
Focusing on the small wins helps you break down a large goal into manageable chunks.
Getting around the right people
Get around people who have direction, people who have goals and plan, people who are going somewhere with their lives and have high aspirations.
Move away for negative and toxic people and environments. You do not want to be around people who moan and wine all the time. Life is too short.
Last but by no means the least, as Zig Ziglar says, “You can’t scratch with the turkeys if you want to fly with the eagles.”
What Is Your WHY? This Is Mine ….
Why do you do what you do?
This is a loaded question and topic as this could pertain to anything, but for the purpose of this article, I am talking mainly in the voice of work at home moms!
Why do you work from home? What prompted your decision to move in this direction?
I think the answer to this question would be pretty obvious for most and is certainly the answer for my WHY – Because of the kids! Obviously, the main reason we decide to leave the corporate rate race is to spend more time with our kids.
The benefits are actually quite plentiful and if it is a possibility for you to take that leap, you should, it will be well worth any sacrifices in the early months.
But surely there must be more than that?
The short answer – YES! Yes, for me there is more. Besides the fact of getting to spend time with my two wonderful boys and watch them grow and live life, I also get to be a contributor to the household financially. I still get to have an inch of independence while being a mother and a provider.
I think that the career path I have chosen, to be a Virtual Assistant, means that I also grow as a person because let’s face it, it takes a certain amount of will and discipline to actually motivate yourself to work when your office is essentially your bedroom, lounge, dining area – or if you’re super organised you have an actual office just for work (me … it’s the corner of my living room where I get the most natural light).
The challenges you take on in this WAHM role should also be your WHY! I know that it is also part of my WHY!
Just to add to reasons why, I think there are also times when a work at home career comes about due to debilitating illness which perhaps makes it difficult to work full time. Thank goodness we have this option, where you are now able to once again be independent financially, but you can also take care of YOU and focus on your wellbeing.
This was also, in part, what prompted me to move away from retail as I suffer from mild fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis and standing for hours on end was just not working for me.
Now I can work in comfort, virtually stress-free (excuse the pun) and I have never been happier, or healthier.
So, in conclusion, your WHY for working from home, or even any sort of change you may make, is dependent on many factors and for the most part making those decisions can breathe new life into you and those around you.
Also knowing why you are doing it makes it that much easier to actually stay on track. Rather than just doing it for the sake of doing it.
When times are tough, and I start questioning – WHY? – I look at my kids and I think to myself, “They are why”, and that is all I need to know. I am also mindful that they learn from what they see, so I always make them aware of the fact that hard work pays off. Discipline pays off. No fear – PAYS OFF!
So, what is your WHY?
A Truly Inspirational Woman That I Admire
There are so many amazing and inspiring Woman across the globe, who I respect and look up to as Mentors and Leaders – making this month’s blog a bit more challenging!
I suppose everyone has a different set of ‘values’ and that determines, possibly, who you follow. By follow, I mean, whose teaching you sit under, whose advice you apply and Leadership you model after. I must say that I look at the Whole of the person’s life, not just their professional life but more so their personal lives. I firmly believe that you get to truly know a person, when you see how those closet to them (e.g. Spouse and Children) relate and interact with them. We good at professional lives, because we’ve been trained to fit a certain model – do or die. But it’s in the intimacy of personal relationship that the real you comes out and especially more so, when one’s personal life can also be a bit challenging – but hey – that’s only what I believe.
Another thought I had as I was thinking about these amazing Woman, and who I could blog about, was there leadership style. You want a Leader whose life will cause you to want to follow them.
Woman in Leadership
Many Woman in Leadership positions today, sadly to say, are power hungry and lead in a dictator type of way.
It was by pure accident that I came across the Woman, I am about to mention below. I was driving in my car one morning on my way to work and this Lady came on the radio and started speaking. Well she was loud and confident but everything she said, resonated truth within me. When I got to the office, I immediately made a note (not much google then), to look up. You say, it was love at first hearing and below is an insert on a bio write up on her, sadly the name of the author was missing.
If you have ever watched ‘Enjoying Everyday Life’, a Joyce Meyer Ministries programme, you would have gotten to see and hear the ever so direct and confident Joyce Meyer. Her teachings are mind changing and heart searching. She just makes so much sense when she speaks, it’s as if she’s living your life, every day. You would think she’s perfect – but she quite assuredly tells you that she’s flawed but she’s living life to the fullest in an overcoming way. You can marvel at that when you know her past.
A charismatic speaker and author
One would have often wondered how a victim of sexual and emotional abuse can talk so assuredly. Well She tells you, its all about God’s grace, His plans and His love. Joyce Meyer is definitely ‘blessed’. A charismatic Christian speaker and author, Meyer went through a great deal of turmoil in her early life but rose to build one of the world’s largest Christian ministries in the world. Her books have helped millions of people find hope and restoration in Jesus Christ and her programme commits at redeeming the words of Jesus Christ by helping people inculcate them in their life. She claims that it was God’s words that helped upturn her doomed life.
She serves as a practical teacher, sharing her experiences and testimony and her life-changing message. Because her life had changed – she longs to see that same change in others and she continues in her effort to help others redeem their life.
- Through Joyce Meyer Ministries, she teaches on a number of topics focussing on mind, mood, mouth and attitude. What has made her Show irresistible, is the fact that she candidly communicates about her experiences and her learning and inspires viewers to learn from them and apply the same in their life. Her practical approach to Bible is quite unique and ground-breaking.
- Over the years, she has authored nearly 100 books, which have been translated in more than 100 languages and have catered to about 12 million readers. The extensive demand of the books and super successful response from readers and critics has led her to become one of the New York Times bestselling authors.
- In addition to hosting a television ministry and writing books, Joyce conducts several domestic and international conferences every year that motivate people to start enjoying their everyday life. Her annual women conference has been quite a big hit, amassing more than 200,000 women from across the globe per year.
- Joyce claims that it is through her teachings that she aims at meeting the needs of the suffering and make people reach out to the Gospel in a practical way. For the same she commenced Hand of Hope, a foundation that serves as the mission arm of Joyce Meyer Ministries. It runs several programs, providing food, medical care and disaster relief supplies.
- In 2000, she co-founded the St Louis Dream Center along with her husband, Dave (you want to hear his story of how he decided to marry Joyce – unique!). The Center aims at serving the inner city through hands-on program that are targeted at treating the needy, lost and hurt through the love of Christ.
Inspirational Joyce quotes
Some of Joyce’s quotes that have really inspired me over the years:
“You can suffer the pain of change or suffer remaining the way you are.”
“Character is doing what you don’t want to do but know you should do.”
“Happiness is not a feeling, it is a choice. To be happy, one must choose to be happy, not respond to a circumstance that now controls your happiness.”
“Courage is fear that has said its prayers and decided to go forward anyway.”
The top 3 things to do in Gauteng, with young children!
Having 2 young girls who are as active as they are vocal about what they want, like and need (their needs are more like wants, but to them it’s a need) means that I need to ensure that there is always something fun and exciting, active and hopefully educational for them to do!
Walter Sisulu Botanical Gardens
Just this past weekend, with winter on its way, I decided that some fresh air was just the thing we all needed. Along with a great friend and her two young children we set off for the Walter Sisulu Botanical Gardens. The goal was to hike to the top of the water falls. I remember this hike, from back in the day, however on this day I was put to shame by a 4 and 6-year-old, who led the charge up the precarious 3.5 km hike to the water fall. This hike was not what I recalled, and though the struggles were real for me, not having exercised in longer than I can remember, the fun, the perseverance I saw in these young children reminded me that giving up was not an option!! This fun journey should be one that everyone should try at least once. The tranquil gardens, the educational aspect, the fresh air and the quality of time spent with my daughters was an amazing experience.
Second on our list is the National Zoological Gardens of South Africa otherwise known as the Pretoria Zoo. What can I say but WOW. Animals for Africa, huge. A great time out for the entire family! My daughters were able to spot animals all over the place! Unlike the Johannesburg Zoo which feels very run down and desolate, you will find every animal imaginable!! Even the Kangaroo! and leopards, Guerrilla’s, tigers. A fun time, also walked for hours, a gold cart may have been better, but the chance to spend that time enjoying the looks on their faces was the highlight of my day. Revisits are definitely in the cards!
For the young at heart where coordination is not a problem, we Roll eGoli! Roll skating! Not for the feint hearted as demonstrated by myself, where my butt was more on the rink than my roller skates. An immensely fun time, learning a new skill, the music is great, the friendly staff are amazing and the pizza to die for! Parties, or just a casual visit will have you revisiting the 80’s!
I’ve learnt the hard way that trying to find things that we all enjoy need not be the most exhaustive thing to do! With google only a tap away, and my daughters eager and excited faces as we head off on yet another awesome journey is worth more than words can ever tell!
And I did have an ice-cream or 2! How can I not!
5 Tips on How to have a Holistic Approach to Balancing Working at Home and Life in General
So, I am a virtual assistant, but I am more than that, I am also a mother, wife, daughter and friend and therefore I have to manage wearing those many different hats on a daily basis.
When balancing life and work in a normal setting, generally work and home are separate because when you leave the office it stays behind and you get in your car, in the train or bus and you go home, to your home which is away from the office. However for a VA our home is our office, our office is our home!
Now how to balance that conundrum you ask? Well below are 5 points, ideas, tips which I try to use daily in order to create this balance, in a holistic, focused manner:
As a person who works from home and who also has two young children in the house routine is my buzzword. If we did not have routine I think my house might literally fall down!
Now what sort of routine are we talking here? Well it’s not military grade, but not too far from. I ensure I start the day same time every day (no thanks to my human alarm clock of course), I grab a cup of coffee – first of many! I then head on to the office (lounge) and switch on the gadgets and start to plan my day. In between the kids need to be fed and sorted with their various needs as well, which generally are also on some sort of clock. I try to keep the routine everyday as this allows me to work efficiently and effectively for my clients but also ensure the other part of my life is seen to and working just as effectively.
Don’t forget about you
This point is one that I took a while to get used to, but it is important. Remember you! Just as the kids need to eat and get dressed and have some fun so do you.
So what this means for me is, I make sure I get dressed (comfy but dressed) every day and maybe put on a little bit of a face or at the very least some moisturiser, mascara and lip-gloss. It is important to remember that although we work from home we can also behave the same as if we were going out to work. In fact studies have shown that prepping yourself as if you are going out to work actually helps to keep you more focused through the day. When you look good you feel good and good things happen!
My fun comes from playing with my kids, helping my son build LEGO or cheer the 7 month old on as he starts to become mobile.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail
Some more reiteration on routine here, but truth is to have that balance you need to plan your work day. You need to know what needs to be done, what is priority, what can go in the “tomorrow pile” and what needs to be addressed ASAP! If you do not have these plans in place you are going to be like a headless chicken trying to juggle way too much and end up not getting anything, or very little, done during your working hours.
My plan of action each day? I ensure I have my task list set up for each client, I know what is needed for each day. I break it up into the hours which I have allocated for each client and I mark off as we go along. Some of this is done electronically on apps like Trello or else manually in my diary/notebook. Make no mistake sometimes an urgent task pops up and that then needs to take preference, but at least I have a system in place for the general day to day operations.
Know when to step away
Another one of those very hard to do things, but it needs to be done. You need to set a time when the day is done because again, when you work outside of the home when your colleagues start packing up and leaving you know it’s time to go, but when you work at home?? Well you kind of need to set an alarm to tell yourself, “Switch off that computer, the day is done.” No one is able to work 24/7 even if you are in the comfort of your own home.
The final bit to make it holistic
So, now that we have gone through all of that I have come to the final, most important part, taking time out for you! Now this can be anything really from reading a book, taking a walk, going to the gym or whatever else. For me, it is that time at the end of the evening when my babies are in bed and I can just stretch out on the couch and veg out watching some Netflix. I also ensure I, at least once a week, have a spa bath at home, you can do this by introducing Epsom salts and essential oils, you can read about it and the benefits here .
At the end of the day to balance life, home and work – when you work at home, is work in itself but it can be done and it must be done in order for no one or nothing to be neglected.
Happy working from home!!