Being my own greatest best friend!

Being my own greatest best friend!

Being my own greatest best friend!

This is a topic that hits very close to home and one that my best friend and I have to continuously remind each other about. It is something that i have had to teach myself and my daughters, through my own experiences, that if you feel people use you, take advantage of you, or break their promises to you, then you need to make some new choices. It’s time for you to do a self-check.

I did one, and I discovered that I have amazingly positive, wonderful, loving, supportive good people in my life. They have been with me for years, some for decades. They are 100 percent in my corner. They challenge me, chasten me, correct me, adore me, build me up, give to me, and they are loyal to me as I am them. Our relationships thrive and soar because we are the same.

All this is possible when you start treating yourself as if you are fabulous, terrific, and wonderful, you don’t allow others to walk over you. When you start believing that you’re a magnificent limited edition of one – unique in every way, you put out a different energy in all your relationships (business, personal or friendships).

And having 2 young and impressionable daughters watching my every move, my every interaction, listening to my calls, the way I speak to people has made me realise that my self check, is not so much about myself but also about my daughters. You teach people how to treat you means that it all comes back to you. It’s up to you to allow or not allow certain treatment. It also means that you have to first get clear about how you want to be treated. It means that you have to take responsibility enough to write your own owner’s manual. And you are accountable for living by your owner’s manual. For some of us, it may be the very first time we ever even gave this any thought.

I read somewhere, “Remember that accountability and responsibility have nothing to do with blame. They are an entirely different energy and intent than blame. Blame seeks to shame and belittle. Responsibility seeks to un-victim you.”

If this is something that you can’t believe right now, then becoming your own best friend is really important. Because if you feel good about yourself then other people will treat you with respect.  Remember: we teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.

Be brave and selective, live by your values and standards, and watch what you do attract. You might be scared. But you won’t be disappointed. And if you need some more motivation, you can find it in the freezer in a variety of flavours!

The 5 best things to do in Durban, South Africa, by T. Barkus, Virtual Assistant

The 5 best things to do in Durban, South Africa, by T. Barkus, Virtual Assistant

The 5 best things to do in Durban, South Africa

As a Virtual Assistant based in Durban, South Africa I wanted to share what’s best about living in this vibrant and culture rich city that I now call home.

Durban is situated in the KwaZulu Natal province on the Eastern coast of South Africa. It is known for its African, Indian and Colonial influences and offers a range of sites and activities for both locals and tourists.

Here’s my top 5 recommendations for things to do in Durban.

  1. Hit the beach

Durban has beautiful stretches of beaches on the Indian Ocean. The main city beach called the Golden Mile, underwent a dramatic upgrade and transformation for the 2010 Soccer World Cup and is today still very well maintained and popular amongst day trippers, sun bathers, surfers and swimmers. There is also a lovely promenade for cycle rides and walks. 10 km out of Durban, Umhlanga Rocks offers another stretch of beautiful beach. As its name suggests, it is more rocky and provides a great place for children wanting to explore the rich sea life in the rock pools (be sure to check the tides).

  1. Take a trip to the Valley of 1,000 Hills

A 45 minute drive out of Durban is the beautiful terrain of The Valley of 1,000 Hills.  A typical visit to the area might consist of watching a Zulu ceremony and dance at PheZulu Cultural and Safari Park, having a pub lunch with a view, seeing crocodiles and snakes at the Crocodile and Snake Park and generally taking in the beautiful scenery and enjoying some relief from the humidity of Durban.

  1. Visit Moses Mabhida Stadium

The stadium was built for the 2010 World Cup held in South Africa and is now used for local soccer and cricket matches, live concerts and other performances. It is also home to the local soccer team AmaZulu. The stadium features an arch extending over the length of the field and offers visitors the opportunity to ride the cable cart to the top for fantastic views of the city. For thrill seekers, there is the Big Rush Swing which is a bungee free fall swing that hangs from the centre of the stadium’s arch.

  1. See Durban’s historic city centre

Although a lot of decentralisation has occurred over the last 20 years or so, the city centre is still worth a visit for the diversity of the markets, historical colonial architecture and an array of interesting museums. Of note is Durban’s City hall – also known as eThekwini City Hall where you will also find the Durban Art Gallery and Natural Science Museum.

  1. Enjoy fun in the water at uShaka Marine World

Last but not least, we are back to the water. uShaka Marine World comprise of uShaka Sea World Aquarium, uShaka Wet and Wild waterslide park, uShaka Village Walk (shops and restaurants) and uShaka Kids World (including Africa’s biggest jungle gym).  It is a haven for kids and the young at heart alike and offers a full day of entertainment for all.

These are just a small selection of what is available to see and do in Durban and although not as well-known as the cities of Cape Town and Johannesburg, Durban is well worth a visit for both local and overseas visitors.