Being my own greatest best friend!
This is a topic that hits very close to home and one that my best friend and I have to continuously remind each other about. It is something that i have had to teach myself and my daughters, through my own experiences, that if you feel people use you, take advantage of you, or break their promises to you, then you need to make some new choices. It’s time for you to do a self-check.
I did one, and I discovered that I have amazingly positive, wonderful, loving, supportive good people in my life. They have been with me for years, some for decades. They are 100 percent in my corner. They challenge me, chasten me, correct me, adore me, build me up, give to me, and they are loyal to me as I am them. Our relationships thrive and soar because we are the same.
All this is possible when you start treating yourself as if you are fabulous, terrific, and wonderful, you don’t allow others to walk over you. When you start believing that you’re a magnificent limited edition of one – unique in every way, you put out a different energy in all your relationships (business, personal or friendships).
And having 2 young and impressionable daughters watching my every move, my every interaction, listening to my calls, the way I speak to people has made me realise that my self check, is not so much about myself but also about my daughters. You teach people how to treat you means that it all comes back to you. It’s up to you to allow or not allow certain treatment. It also means that you have to first get clear about how you want to be treated. It means that you have to take responsibility enough to write your own owner’s manual. And you are accountable for living by your owner’s manual. For some of us, it may be the very first time we ever even gave this any thought.
I read somewhere, “Remember that accountability and responsibility have nothing to do with blame. They are an entirely different energy and intent than blame. Blame seeks to shame and belittle. Responsibility seeks to un-victim you.”
If this is something that you can’t believe right now, then becoming your own best friend is really important. Because if you feel good about yourself then other people will treat you with respect. Remember: we teach people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.
Be brave and selective, live by your values and standards, and watch what you do attract. You might be scared. But you won’t be disappointed. And if you need some more motivation, you can find it in the freezer in a variety of flavours!